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Get Involved :- it will get you out of depression

So when you are depressed you have this view that life is never going to get better. In fact, life may even be ending soon because it seems to have no other direction to go. But there are ways to deal with the onslaught of depression. Depression is a selfish issue. The individual is very much looking at themselves…how they feel, what they feel if anything, and how much they are failing with others and in productivity. What has to be done is to make an effort to turn that inward fixation outward and begin forcing a broader view.

Now, medication is by far the most effective way to deal with depression. But sometimes, for whatever reason an individual may not be able to take an anti-depressant. Or maybe, medication isn’t enough. For those situations, these tools are found to be very effective in assisting with alleviating depression. The first tool was to make yourself talk to someone or spend time being social with someone. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Make short conversation with a neighbor. Help out a friend, make a phone call and pay a bill by talking to a real person, but find a way to interact with someone every day where it takes you beyond what you have been doing.

The second tool is an extension of the first. Talk to someone. Then get involved with someone. Get someone’s mail, pick up your sibling’s kids from school. Do something for someone else. The reason for this is to begin to pull you out of your mindset of isolation which feeds dark thoughts. This tool is difficult to use. It is hard to make yourself do something when every part of you is protesting, but give it a try. It doesn’t have to be earth shattering. Email someone and send them an email card or just send a greeting and express happy wishes. Anything to get you out of the little place you are trapped in.

I lead a forum for mental health issues. It is new but something I have wanted to do for a long time. Right now I am pretty firmly entrenched in the depression aspect of my illness. I am very reclusive. I spend a lot of time online, which is comfortable for me and I have certain people I keep in the loop of my life regularly. But right now it is very difficult for me to extend myself because I want to pull inward and fixate on my own psyche. I find that when I make myself do things like my forum, I am distracted and disjointed due to the dialogue going on internally with me continually talking myself into being present and attending to what is going on.

Afterward I am exhausted to the point of thought patterns that looked like frayed ends of a rope, but I force my way through and though I am not on my game really, I accomplish a very great thing, and that is not to give in to the fog of depression. It’s a battle but I know participating in other’s lives helps me better manage my own because I’ve tested the process over and over again. If you are struggling with depression, give these tools a try. They are not a cure. They are not fool proof, but I believe they will help to get you through this season much quicker.

Hang in there!

From womenshealth@everydayhealth.com